What I Think About Cultural Appropriation

“Do you want a bindi?” The girl who asks me blinks with her synthetic rainbow falsies. I’m at a tapas bar in England, shimmying to reggaeton beneath a canopy of upside-down sombreros. “Sure!” I shout back. The girl—a white English girl—untacks a gemstone from her paper and presses it against my forehead. There. A bindi. Looking back, I wonder now: did she know what a … Continue reading What I Think About Cultural Appropriation

Why Most of Your Growth is Not Visible

“I must tell you a great truth, Much-Afraid, which only a few understand. All of the fairest beauties in the human soul, its greatest victories, and its most splendid achievements are always those which no one else knows anything about, or can dimly guess at… Some of my servants have indeed won great visible victories and are rightly loved and reverenced by other men, but … Continue reading Why Most of Your Growth is Not Visible

Why I Used to Hate My Body

“Don’t worry. You’ll fill out.” I can’t remember who told me this, but I held onto it like a God-breathed promise. I wanted to feel full. Filled-out. Like a Build-a-Bear teddy. Freshly fluffed. I know this will make your eyes roll. But believe me when I say, in middle school, I felt—and was told—that I was too skinny. It didn’t matter that skinny girls thrived … Continue reading Why I Used to Hate My Body