What I Used to Believe

“I’m struggling with my faith.” Nothing sounded more annoying to me than those words. And I heard it all the time. From my Christian friends to my fellow churchgoers, from coworkers to pastors. “If you’re struggling with your faith.…” “Are you struggling with your faith?” “Yeah, I’m really struggling with my faith.” I would roll my eyes each time. For one thing, why is it … Continue reading What I Used to Believe

How To Know If Your Faith is Real

Better hang on to that salvation pretty tightly.* If you’re a Christian who makes it a daily habit to second-guess yourself (guilty wave), you might relate to that panicked feeling of wondering if perhaps, maybe, just maybe, your faith in God is not authentic. Maybe it is, in fact, wobbly. Surface-level. But you don’t realize it. After all, surfacey people don’t know they’re surfacey. Are … Continue reading How To Know If Your Faith is Real

Why I Don’t Care About Self-Care

Come on, guys. We are Generation Treat Yo-Self. This I know, for Parks and Recreation—and an article in The Guardian—told me so. Dear my fellow co-blogger, Savvy: I realize this blog post is a bit of an objection to your post “Take Care of Yourself.” You wrote about the importance of self-care and I don’t mean to argue against you. Actually, if I may spoil … Continue reading Why I Don’t Care About Self-Care

When You Show Me Who You Really Are

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.* I hate this feeling. A car has blindsided me. Sidled up and crashed into me, shaking me awake. Okay, in reality, I’m steering safely through an intersection, blinkers blinking, windshield wipers wiping. But it feels like I’ve been blindsided. Not bumped by a tailgater. Not rammed into the car in front of me. … Continue reading When You Show Me Who You Really Are

How I Knew I Was Ready to Get Married

Featured Photo Credit: The Rivers How do you know when you’re ready to get married? Guest blogger Victoria Piraino opens up about being engaged: Have you ever reached the point when reality sets in and you don’t know how to respond to your raging emotions and thoughts? Well for me, one of those moments was when I got engaged. Change for most people can be … Continue reading How I Knew I Was Ready to Get Married

How To Be By Yourself

Listen up, fellow extroverts! Guest blogger Taylor Berglund has the secret to being by yourself…and it’s not what you expect. Here’s what he has to say: When Rachel first asked me to write on “being alone,” I thought it was a poorly-concealed jab at my relationship status. After all, being alone comes naturally to me. I’m an introvert, so my problem is the opposite—if I … Continue reading How To Be By Yourself

Can God Speak to You?

Who is this Pentecostal God, sneaking around, putting words into people’s mouths, into their ears, wooing them to places they may or may not want to go?* Okay, so! I work at a charismatic-Christian publishing house which means that at work, I’m immersed in literature about getting closer to God, speaking in tongues, and, above all, hearing God’s voice. I always assumed the latter was a … Continue reading Can God Speak to You?

This Is What I Need Most

I’m sitting in the emergency room while my friend gets shuttled off to get a CAT scan. It’s 11:00 pm on a weekday but I’m not complaining. There’s a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart and it’s not just because I know my friend’s health is in God’s hands. Three months ago, I invited myself to sit at this girl’s lunch table—plopping my Tupperwared food … Continue reading This Is What I Need Most

When Christians Go Batshit Crazy

Strobe lights sweep across the auditorium. Music pounds against my eye sockets. Hands are in the air. They praise God with a passion that used to humble me to tears. I’m in my seat, arms crossed, eyes half open. Literally, I’m in a church. I’M IN A CHURCH AND THERE’S STROBE LIGHTS. I have been in the dregs of America’s Bible Belt for barely two … Continue reading When Christians Go Batshit Crazy